So you’ve agreed to go on a blind date with a complete stranger that you met on the internet/through a friend/by the grace of your fairy godmother and you’re about to throw up with anxiety. Don’t panic! It’s going to be fine. A blind date might not be where you find the love of your life, but here’s how to make it at least a pleasant experience.
1. Go in with no expectations
You don’t know anything about this person, so it’s no use picturing him as either a) Channing Tatum or b) a rabid werewolf. Chances are, he’s going to be somewhere in between, even if he seemed really fit and funny on Tinder, or in your friend’s description. Just think to yourself “I’m going to have a nice date with a new friend, and even if it sucks, at the end of it I can go home to my cat.”
2. Wear something that makes you feel good
We’re at our best when we feel attractive, so make sure you wear something that makes you feel gorgeous and confident. It varies from one woman to another – is it a pair of killer heels? A cool pair of sneakers? A nice dress? A flattering pair of jeans? You’ll enjoy your blind date much more if you make an effort – for yourself!
3. Don’t get too drunk
Alcohol is great, because it can make even shy people feel more at ease with opening up – that’s why they call it a social lubricant. But getting messy drunk on a first date? Girl, no. It makes you look bad, and it’s dangerous for your health. Stick to three drinks, tops, alternate each drink with a glass of water, and take a taxi home.
4. Try something unusual
If you’re not a picky eater, and you’re dining at a restaurant with your date, why not try something you’ve never tried before? You know you love the tagliatelle with porcini mushrooms and truffle oil, but why not branch out a little? New experiences can be a bonding moment, and if you hate what you’ve ordered, you can ask to switch with your date. (Yes, it’s to find out if he’s a generous lover. It’s a test. Watch your step, boys.)
5. Leave your insecurities at home
A blind date is NOT the place to mentally highlight the parts of yourself that you dislike, or worse, tell your date about them. (You: “I really don’t like my bingo wings.” Him: “…”) Even if you sense that the guy is not into you, it’s fine. It’s not your fault. Just try to find out what does make him smile, to at least make the date bearable. Laughter is the best medicine, and most people find a sense of humour very attractive.
6. Think ‘this will make a good story later’
One of my friends has an outrageously funny date story about a guy she once went out with who had the conversational skills of a musty banana peel. This was probably seven years ago, and it’s still hilarious. Even if you’re having a really shit date, remind yourself – this too shall pass. And then you can go on the group chat and tell all your friends about it.